Long Distance Relationship (Part 1)

I don't think long distance relationships are uncommon to Med Teks. I believe that it is experienced by many Filipinos. Your partner might be a Med Tek, a nurse, a doctor, an engineer, an architect, a seaman, a cook,a domestic helper or any other form of work available abroad, the fact still remains that you are distance apart. Long distance relationships might look close as Manila to Davao, or as far as Cebu to Dubai, but it still bears the same weight and the same amount of loneliness. (check my post about working abroad, click here)

Long distance relationship. If I were to ask 10 random Med Teks if they think that long distance relationships would work, I would assume that more than 5 out of 10 Med Teks would say "no".  It is undeniable that this type of relationship is quite difficult. If I may quote a colleague, "yun nga na araw-araw magkasama naghihiwalay pa, yun pa kayang magkalayo!". Although it is quite true, many are still in this type of relationship. The physical aspect of the relationship is hard, but the emotional part is harder. Let me try to explain that. When you celebrate your monthsaries or your anniversaries, you are alone. This occasions should have been celebrated with a partner but he/she is absent. That's the physical aspect. You suddenly feel the emptiness, the longing for her/his embrace or the touch of their lips, or as simple as the grasp of his/her hand. That's the emotional part. That pain when you feel like you can smell their scent but could not feel their warmth. Like a ghost in your mind, you could only see but you can never touch. What a burden. Hirap noh? Never remind a person whose in a long distance relationship about Valentine's day and Christmas (you may also want to avoid the line: "Pasko na! Ang lamig ng simoy ng hangin!" ).


This type of relationship is never easy. Would I recommend it? Definitely not. Do I think long distance relationship works? It is plausible. It all depends on the couple. It all comes down to the foundation of the relationship. Whether they're doing it for their kids or they're simply holding on to a connection famously known as love. This is probably the only thing they can hold on to. And this thing called love, it comes with two more important factors: first is trust, and the other is faith. Breaking someone's trust in a long distance relationship is instant breakup. Losing your faith to your partner spells the same fate. So if you're thinking of having this type of relationship, you better be well prepared mentally and emotionally. Long distance relationship could be one of the worst test a couple could face.

Anybody could go on and on explaining how hard, how disadvantageous and even how risky it is to commit in a long distance relationship. But, only those who had a successful long distance relationship could tell you how sweet it is. It's like eating a crab or a lobster, it takes time and skill to open it, but when you finally crack the shell, the flesh is so tasty! (Long distance relationships and crabs, by far the Worst Analogy Ever!) At the end of the day, only couples who had the experience could say if it's worth it or not.

(Wait for the Part 2 of this post for tips on how to survive a long distance relationship! Wink!)

"It takes 1,295 km to get to Davao from Quezon city. About 7,761 km is the distance from Manila to Riyadh. Almost twice that distance is from Manila to Toronto at 13,222 km. Despite statistics, despite the odds, and despite the distance, our hearts have never been apart."

- D.A.




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